Love and friendship VS money
This
is a topic that has been well discussed already a long time before I was born.
What does that mean? Well, in my opinion that means there is no right answer or
we all know the right answer but still keep on doing the wrong things. Why else
should people still be talking about it? There must be something that we can’t
actually understand.
What
is the right answer to this question? Most of people without thinking would
reply its love and friendship. But then again, as I said. They would do it
without thinking. It is just a thing that we have been taught to answer.
Because that is the “right” answer. Now I want to say that I don’t think there
is the right answer to this question, so I will try to look at this problem
from both ways, still looking more from the money side as it is less popular
and there for more challenging to me.
Love and
friendship. What could be more romantic, more pure, more right than that. Most
of the fairy tales already from our childhood teaches us that people who choose
greediness, money instead of love or friendship in the end are the losers. The
same continues later when we grow up. The films show how important it is to
choose friends or love instead of money. And are they wrong? Who knows? At
least it sounds right. Can we really ever trust again someone who betrayed us?
Can we live a truly happy life after we had done that? Rarely a true friendship
ever starts because of some kind of money gains. Money mostly is not important.
We meet some people, we spend time with them and we enjoy their appearance just
because we like them. Nothing added, nothing taken away. Now let’s make it even
more obvious choice to make. Now let’s say it’s not about money vs. love or
friendship, but money vs. the true love and best friend. Your true love and
your best friend. We may have several good friends during our life and it’s no surprise
we have loved several people in our lives as well. And sometimes they just pass
away from our life and we find someone in their place. But what if talk about
the true love and the best friends in the world. A person you have connection
so strong the whole world couldn’t tear you apart. Could someone actually
choose money over that? Yes that might be a lot of money, but money comes and
goes and you can earn it, but what is the chance you would ever again find a
person like that? Not everyone finds
them in their life. And even if you would find another one, what about all the
great memories, moments, adventures and laughter you had with them. You would
have to live with the knowledge you could never bring it back again. Is there a
sum that can be equal to it? Of course there is, but let’s be realistic no one
would offer you 3 millions of dollars so you would just betray your friend
somehow. In reality the sums would be a lot less and actually quite earnable if
you would work.
So is there any
point betraying someone so special, for money that you could earn sooner or
later by yourself. Is the short period of happiness worth all the lost things?
“Money
can’t buy happiness, but it sure is better to cry in a Mercedes than in a bus”
Can’t it? Can’t
money really buy happiness? Can’t it provide me with real friends and love? I
think it can. Think about it. If you are wealthy you don’t have to worry about
everyday life so much anymore. Paying bills, thinking what to buy for dinner,
how to pay for university and what the future will be like. All of these things
can lead anyone into a deep depression and misery. What love can you have if
all day long you work in a job you don’t like (if you even have one), if you
have to worry about everything in the future, if you don’t know what may happen
to you. You don’t have any enthusiasm and the life seems like full of misery.
Would it be nice if someone offered you some money to end all the misery? Even
if it would be necessary to make a sacrifice? Your loved one, or a friend?
Would it seem like such a big deal anymore? All day long you don’t see anything
else as dust and disadvantages of your life. Wouldn’t it be worth to make some
more sacrifices to experience all the things you could never do?
“Too
many people spend money they earned..to buy things they don’t want..to impress
people that they don’t like. –Will Rogers”
Do you really
want to spend rest of your life doing things for other people? Be the little
black plumber, that everyone makes fun of. Or do you want to be the boss of
yourself? Be successful. Lest say you
work in your friends firm. You earn decent money for the job you have and
everything is kind of ok. And then someone from a competitors firm offer you a
bunch of money and a better paid job and other advantages if you would come to
their organizations and reveal some secrets. Now if you would decline this offer, you would
stay in the same job forever, with chances that life wouldn’t get better. And
your friend? Would he cover you with golden coins for this loyalty. You may receive
some good words, but that’s about it. Now what if you decided to change your
life. Take the challenge. Do some dirty things. Your personal life would only
benefit from that. A new job, better salary, better company, new opportunities.
In a moment’s notice by making some sacrifice you made your life a lot better.
Without directly harming to anyone. That’s just business.
“A
wise person should have money in their head, but not in their heart.”
–Jonathan Swift
A golden middle road? An answer that would satisfy
both opinions? Of course there is not. But we can try to live our life so we wouldn’t
have to make decisions like that. Money no doubt is important and we can’t live
without it nor can we achieve our life goals and fulfill our lives. Those who
say they would choose love and friendship over money anytime, well….I don’t believe
them. It’s one thing what we say and completely another we do when the moment
arrives. We like to think about ourselves as great human beings but if we
really would be like that, then there wouldn’t be so many problems including
money and friends or lovers.
“Rich people have small TVs and big
libraries, and poor people have small libraries and big TVs.” –Zig Ziglar
Don’t act like
poor people. Not only poor with money but emotionally. Good things come to us
if we work for them. No one has become rich by sitting and no one has found
true love the same way as well. We have
a lot of choices in our lives. The more choices you have to make, the better.
It means you are alive. You are working, trying to become better. Not everyone
will become wealthy and find the true love or friendship. But we can all work
for it.
So love and friendship or money? My conscious mind tells me to choose love of
course, but then again. I have always wanted a house in the Alps with a Ferrari
in the garage. I believe I can get both.
I still don’t know exactly how, but if one can believe in something he can also
achieve it.
