YOU , you are
your owns worst enemie. You all have heard this expresion, but have you thought
why? Well if you havent I can offer you
my idea because I did.
As it turns out,
we are never alone, even when we are alone. Even when we are alone, we hear voices.
Not made by other people. Not even by ourself. But inside our heads. For a long time I thought there is only 1
voice inside my head that isnt mine. I called this voice The Reasonable man.
Later what I understood that his real name is Fear, but what did the reasonable
man inside my head say to me. Well he
said to be reasonable in what ever I do. You know, play it safe. Dont make huge
mistakes, dont take risks, be really carefull with new things, try not to rush
anywhere, build a carrier safe, dont do things differently than other people
do, dont do things you might fail at. Be safe. Be a reosanable man.
But some time ago
I understood that the resonable man inside my head is not the only voice. There are actually a bunch of them. No I am
not crazy, well mybe a little bit.
To best describe
the idea is to go and see movie called Inside Out. For those who dont know it:
it san animation movie about a little girl. And inside this little girl as in
all humāns in this movie, live 5 tottally different characters. Called JOY,
Anger, Sandnes, Disgust and Fear or as I used to call him The reasonable man.
They see
everything you see and push and pull buttons on a main board to trigger
emotions that they think will suit best.
Now what is most
important in this animation as in life is
--- Who will be behind the main control desk. Which of these 5 emotions
will mostly lead you? Do you know which
of them drives you now, what mood you have?
I know my one. Its JOY. Because
my mood is always Great.
But it wasnt like
that before. You see before, the main captain of ship was captain Fear or as I
called him the resonable man. You seem completly happy and good when everything
is happening as it should. When you are in routine, but when I came up to new
things an alarm was triggered inside my head, and fear took all the control of
events inside my head.
Now as I said
before Fear or the resonable man want to do things safe, dont do smthing new
because it is happy with what is already has and dont like new things he knows
nothing about.
But as I
understood the reasonable man is just scared of everything new. Afraid of
failure, of new things of unexcpeted turns.
Well as for some
time already. I am not a reasonable man anymore.
I once wrote a letter to president just to see if I could
get a response from her. I went on a trip ALONE to Belarus to meet a girl I met
in Latvia, I knew her for only 2 days. I went alone on a 600km trip along sea
side on a motorcycle. I even went as far as to go to Ukraine, also alone. I
have gone down a bob sledge track on a metal shovel at the speed of 60km/h. I have bought stocks in stock market and lost
everything there. I have participated in several events, workshops and seminars
also alone. My first time here? alone…..
If fear (or as I
call him the resonable man) would be the main character who controls the
buttons and switches inside my head, I wouldnt have ever done them.
We all have
derams, something we would love to do. We might even say these things loud to our
friends, that yeah I would love to go on a trip to Africa, or I would love to
own a motorcyle or this and that, but rarely someone actually do these things
they dream about. The voice inside your head Joy, would love to do them, but
she cannot. Because she is not the main captain of your head. Some other
emotion is leading, standing behind the control desk inside your head. Not
allowing to fullfill these dreams.
What to do? How
to change the main captain inside your head?
I dont know? You
have to figure that out by your self.
All the rest emotions are equally powerfull and actually you do need all
of them inside your head to work properly.
In all the
activities I have mentioned before, I havent been the best. I am not the
best letter writer to presidents, I am not the best traveler, I am not the best
speaker, and I am not even the fastest man on a metal shovel. I am barley
average in anything I do. Not a nice conclusion for a guy who want to excel.
Who wants to be something.
Now you might think this is the breaking point where some
other emotion in my head take the main control swich. Mybe sadness to be scared
about this fact forever or mybe anger. To be angry to everybody in the world
that I cannot succeed.
But none of them got in charge in my head. Because Joy came
up with another amazing idea.
“How to be the best by being average. “
You see I have done so many things, learnt at least the
basics, gathered informations, got contacts seen places, and experienced
events, that by just being avarge in all of them I better that most of them.
Because even if they are good in what they do, it the only thing they ever
really know. They are good at something and do not explore more. As to me, I am
never satisfied with what I have.
You see it’s easy to understand what the Fear (or reasonable
man) in my head wants. It can be measured. It wants stability, it want en exact
game plan, it wants thing to happen as they usually happen. But as for the new
captain in my head –as to JOY. Her needs
and wants or desires cannot be measured. Because it doesn’t know what it really
want. It just has this urge to look for
new amazing things. Mybe its not good that she permanently is in control of the
main switches and buttons in my head. I might never be able to settle somewhere
down, to be satisfied with what I have, but I do know one thing for sure. While
she is charge I will collect a lot of new amazing stories. And that is a
possession no one can get if not letting Joy to lead your head.
What I understood is that if you want to be the best you
can be it doesn’t mean you have to be the best in everything you do.
